How should I handle this?
How should I handle my mom? I’m financially unable to rent a place on my own right now. Me and my mom had a rough painful beginning. As a young adult, I want to get over guiding my actions to pleasing her. You see, I feel like I was never the child she would have wanted me to be. I struggled in elementary school and high school staying motivated in class. I struggled making and keeping friends. There is more but I don’t want to overwhelm anybody. As an adult I am now setting my own goals and achieving them. Still there is that child in me that is desperate to make up somehow. I often get tempted to tell her all the stories between me and my boyfriend and she always just tells me to break away from him. But why? This person really cares for me even in times right now when I get emotional and lose my temper.
To make it clearer I live at home with my mom and step dad. I’m 23, the youngest of 3, and going to college. I want her to like me right now as a person. I feel stuck because I live in the same house. I want to mature From what I just typed can you give me some insight? Did anybody else go through the same situation and how did they handle it? Thank you any help is appreciated.
Your mother may not be able to tell you how she feels about you and that’s not your fault. I went thur the same thing for over 43 years. When my mother passed away in May, my uncle’s girlfriend told me she had a message from my mother for me. I had just met her. She told me that my mother thought that I thought that she didn’t love me, but that she did. She just didn’t know how to tell me because of the family circumstances had made me grow up so fast and I didn’t know how to show love, trust or anything else to anyone in the family. I had learned how to be very independent and how to stand up for myself. I didn’t ask for help or ask for anyone else’s opinion. I was basically 7 going on 21 and my mother wasn’t quite sure how to cope with me and she didn’t know how to relate to me at all. If you can, try to get your mother alone in a quite place so the two of you can have some alone time and start a new relationship. Don’t wait until it’s too late. Good luck.
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Your mother may not be able to tell you how she feels about you and that’s not your fault. I went thur the same thing for over 43 years. When my mother passed away in May, my uncle’s girlfriend told me she had a message from my mother for me. I had just met her. She told me that my mother thought that I thought that she didn’t love me, but that she did. She just didn’t know how to tell me because of the family circumstances had made me grow up so fast and I didn’t know how to show love, trust or anything else to anyone in the family. I had learned how to be very independent and how to stand up for myself. I didn’t ask for help or ask for anyone else’s opinion. I was basically 7 going on 21 and my mother wasn’t quite sure how to cope with me and she didn’t know how to relate to me at all. If you can, try to get your mother alone in a quite place so the two of you can have some alone time and start a new relationship. Don’t wait until it’s too late. Good luck.
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