How do I refind myself, i feel lost and very confused….Please be patient with me?
I am very sensitive, I am 26 years old male, I think I am coming to realize I have been trying to please people my whole life. i.e. my mother, my friends, co-workers, relatives and so forth. My actions and decisions have been guided by the approval of others, which I now feel is self destructive. It is hard for me to do something that is not pleasing to Them, It’s like I hate to see them upset because I would like to do something or stop doing something or make a change in my life, i feel they cannot nderstand my reasoning to make myself happy or I feel they think it won’t be a safe move for my future and so on. So now that I realize this I dont even know what I need anymore I’m so lost and confused. People always ask me "what do you want Steven" I always give them an answer to please them, Not really telling them that I don’t want anything really.I am happy just being a "regular old joe" and sometimes not setting all these highly ambitious goals and what not. I value inner peace, simple living, low stress. I am very introvert and don’t require much interaction with others, being with others to much really drains me. Please give honest feedback, it would be easier for you guys and girls to maybe notice something that I dont, I feel blind at times.
I hope this message of what I am asking for is clear enough for you to inderstand, if it isn’t just let me know and I can try to clarify it more. I appreciate any and all answers. Much love
There is nothing wrong with wanting to please and make your family and friends happy, but the problem lies in the fact that you put your own happiness to the side and that’s not a good thing. You’re own happiness should be JUST as important to you.
Being in a state of "lost" is only temporary. You have to focus on the things that would make you happy or complete. You have to make sure Steven is JUST as happy as everyone else and if that’s not the case then STEVEN needs to man up and correct that. There is nothing wrong with a man being sensitive but there comes a time when you need to put that testosterone to use. Be a man and make Steven important because he is!!
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Just take some solitary walks to the park. or spend time with yourself. You gotta tune the world out and thihk wit quiet introspection. You have to learn to say no. If peopel are interfering with your life too much then just ignroe them. Forget about them. Forget about reality and live in blissful forgetfulness of everything. Just an advice to prevent you from goign crazy.
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There is nothing wrong with wanting to please and make your family and friends happy, but the problem lies in the fact that you put your own happiness to the side and that’s not a good thing. You’re own happiness should be JUST as important to you.
Being in a state of "lost" is only temporary. You have to focus on the things that would make you happy or complete. You have to make sure Steven is JUST as happy as everyone else and if that’s not the case then STEVEN needs to man up and correct that. There is nothing wrong with a man being sensitive but there comes a time when you need to put that testosterone to use. Be a man and make Steven important because he is!!
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Been there…
we’re the same! after much time being spent around people i also want to be alone and i also value simple things instead of being highly competitive…and regarding what i really want, i honestly want to help others by being a psychologist or fashion consultant since i think that’s what im best at but of course my mom would always stand against what i really want…guess we just have to look out for the advices of others
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