Resume Writing Advice

My husband and I have been married for five years, four months. We have a really great relationship and friendship, we are truly best friends, we have been together for a total of ten years.

Money has recently been tight, but we always make it through with a "little" bit extra. but he says it’s not good enough for his family.

We have also been doing things to better our lives, I returned to school to get my degree so that I can make more money in the future, but instead of my husband going back to school to get his degree, he applied for an offshore oil-rig job, the job pays 1,000 per week and comes with the chance to grow faster and advance, but he will be gone for three to four weeks at a time and when he comes home he will be here for 7-10 days before he goes back.

I want to be a supportive wife but I hate the fact that this is what he chose, we have spent one night apart since we got married,so that’s going to feel pretty strange. We have gotten into several arguments over it and it is becoming a strain on our marriage.

And I also have my mother in my ear saying that offshore work is for a single person, not someone with a family (she’s getting on my nerve) and not to mention we live in her basement, don’t get me wrong, we have our own entrance, it’s fully furnished, very modern, 2bdrm, 1bath but we share a kitchen.

Yesterday he called while I was out running errands and told me to go to this condo to fill out an application, so I did, then I get a call back from this lady stating that we were approved for the 2bdrm,2bath condo and I’m like O.K…..things are moving way too fast for me…..
He is a great provider and always has been, and let me also state that he’s 25 years old, I’m 26.

Please give me some advice to help me get through this feeling of sadness and confusion. This situation maybe ideal for two people that wasn’t deeply in love with one another, but I rather have him than to have all the riches in the world.

Please only married people or people that have been in seriously committed relationships for more than two years give me advice. Thanks

Do be prepared to be self sufficient for a while.
You say you’re a supportive wife but you are not being supportive about his decision. Sometimes you have to give in. You can do this. In the long run, the security that he’ll be able to provide will create peace and happiness in your future. It’s worth the sacrifice.
Also know that his sacrifice is greater than yours by choosing to do this. Offshore work is VERY hard and he will be lonlier than you.
The bright side is that this will make him value his family and home life more than ever when he’s home and when he’s done and it’s time to settle.
Get the condo.
Make the changes and the sacrifice. As long as you stay strong, faithful and optimistic and supportive through it all, you’ll be so glad you did in the end.

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