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How do you build self-esteem when you’ve never had any?

Michelle — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 15:34:16 +0000

I never had anyone to sincerely love me which probably is the cause of my low self-esteem, but I have never quite figured out how to build a sense of worth and self-esteem on my own. I just need love.

love yourself first, and you will find many will love you. Remember its YOUR self esteem, ONLY YOU can control it.

How do you build self esteem in yourself after being depressed?

Michelle — Sat, 26 Jun 2010 17:23:10 +0000

When I’m depressed I have trouble talking straight and trouble having a conversation with random people also my thoughts always change and I forget what I’m doing. This really is bothering me!
Mumbling and grammer errors during one on one communication happens a lot when I’m depressed.

Is it because when I’m depressed I lose confidence in myself?

Self esteem can hit rock bottom for a number of reasons and it can occur during any part of your life, young or old. Being abused, depressed, or simply misunderstanding oneself can ultimately lead to self destruction. There are ways that one can recover good self esteem and leave the bad behind.

1. If a person’s self esteem has been beaten into the ground, one of the first things that one wants to do is get a change of atmosphere. What a change of atmosphere will do is bring about new and hopefully engaging things that will cause laughter and bring out another side of oneself.

2. Secondly, surround yourself with positive people or either a very positive person who can truly make you realize your value without an actually counseling session. There are many talents stored up inside of each individual and it only takes a stranger or a new friend to remind you of it. One of those people that you want to be sure to hang around is God above!

3. Finally, begin to hang out with yourself and do things that you enjoy. Keep yourself company. What this will do is help you to respect your time and yourself enough to know that you are worth more than a bad self esteem! Respecting oneself is very important in this recovery of self esteem because if you wouldn’t disrespect anyone else, why do it to yourself? Instead, hanging out with yourself will teach you to not only respect yourself but love yourself again. Soon enough, there may be a special someone who will truly desire to hang out with you as your self esteem recovers!

what are the best wilderness therapy programs to build self-esteem?

Michelle — Mon, 31 May 2010 22:40:09 +0000

there is no addiction or substance issue. This is for an 18 year old female.

Outward Bound has been doing this for decades now, all kinds of programs, and they help access scholarships & credit applied to school & college. www.outwardbound.org

There’s also a Wilderness Inquiry Program based out of Minnesota my brother worked for.
www.wildernessinquiry.org

They both have different programs for different needs, single gender, families, youth at risk, etc.

Being 18, it’s more likely that you. or this person, may end up with adults, but check it out. Go with a program that has been well-established for many years. You don’t necessarily go to their home base site, they go all over the country and you meet them at a spot near where the adventure takes place, so don’t let their headquarters location put you off.

For a tighter budget and less time, Appalachian Mountain Club takes groups to clear trails, etc along the East coast. Look them up, they may have other programs to offer also. www.outdoors.org

They’ve been around a while also. Don’t know if it’s wilderness therapy or just an adventure. I’d start with the first two mentioned.

Outstanding experience – had me repelling off of cliffs by the age of 12, teaches trust & teamwork skills that you’ll never forget.

Good luck.

How do I build up my self esteem/confidence?

Michelle — Tue, 06 Apr 2010 00:12:18 +0000

I’ve been told my both counselors and friends that I have a pretty low self esteem. I believe this is true and me thinking lowly of myself is what pushes me to do the stupid things I do. How can I start over? build my self esteem? forget and recover of all the bad things that bring me down?

please answer this question, I need the help. Thanks in advance.

Stop being so hard on yourself, try to see the good in you. I know its hard but whenever a negative thought crosses your mind replace it with a positive one. The mind is a very powerful thing and if you don’t control your thoughts your thoughts will control you. Try starting everyday by saying thank you. Start saying thank you for all the blessings that you do have and believe it or not over time you will see a shift in your way of thinking. A great book I recommend for you to read is The Secret. Its a great book and has changed my life.

How to build self confidence and high self esteem without becoming arrogant?

Michelle — Sun, 04 Apr 2010 01:16:06 +0000

Most of my life i haven been a really confident guy, nor have i had a lot of self esteem…..now that im becoming older im doing as much as possible to change that about myself. However somewhere in the process of building my self esteem and confidence i have also become a little arrogant, or so im told. How can i be a confident person, without also being considered arrogant?

lad, arrogance is what makes businessmen have authority over the ‘little people’ i.e. the nice-guy employees.

Why do you think scumbags like drug dealers are never skint? Because they have the confidence and the stupidity to risk getting caught selling drugs.

How do you build self esteem and stop wanting to run away and die?

Michelle — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 09:09:05 +0000

i hate my life.
nothing is working out.
i have no motivation.
there is absolutely no one for me to talk to.
i dont want to end my life i just want it to be over

Don’t hurt yourself. Pray to God about it. Know that God can help you live a better life if you want Him to help you. You can have a personal relationship with God by saying the prayer below. God is our Creator, all-knowing, all-powerful, eternal, holy, love. God loves us and sent us His Son, Jesus Christ, so we can go to heaven if we know and follow Him. Forever means without end — time on and on without death. Forever is what happens after we die. Either we go to heaven and be with God forever, or we go to hell which is very bad and painful forever. The good people who are saved believers in Jesus Christ go to heaven. The bad people go to hell. We need to know and follow God in this world to get to heaven in the next world. We follow God by loving and obeying Him and loving others for Him. Jesus Christ, God’s Son, is our bridge to God. Jesus died on the cross to cancel our sins. We need to accept Jesus into our life as our Lord and Savior forever to receive God’s blessing and forgiveness plus go to heaven to be with God forever after we die. This is about being a born-again Christian. Faith in God is a gift from God. You can pray for faith in God. Just speak out and ask God for the faith to believe in Him and to follow Him. Some people find faith in God when they realize the beauty in the world is made by God. Evolution can’t explain the world’s natural beauty, for example, the parks in the world, animals, flowers, peacocks, sunsets, butterflies, rainbows, etc. After you have your faith on, you can pray a sinner’s prayer to be a born-again Christian. This prayer is very important and should be said with a sincere heart and faith in God. This is the prayer: "Dear God, I know that I am a sinner and that Jesus Christ is the sacrifice for our sins. I have done the following sins (state these out) and I pray to discontinue these sins. I pray to receive Jesus Christ into my life as my Lord and Savior forever. In Jesus’ name, amen." I’m Lutheran and I like the Baptist churches too. You could check out a Christian church and also see about their weekly Bible study group as a good way to learn about God’s will for your life. You can pray to God about your daily life and have a Christian church pray for you.

Tips to quickly build self esteem and confidence? 17 guy?

Michelle — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 07:23:14 +0000

I have low self esteem and no confidence, how can i rebuild it?

As someone who sails in the same sorry low-self esteem boat as you, I would suggest:

Get plenty of exercise, do weights and get yourself in great physical shape. If the gym isn’t your thing, take up sports until you find one you excel at. Nothing builds confidence like being good at something. No one can take your talents away from you.

If you’re not so good at sports, still exercise. Execerise creates feel-good hormones that will chemically boost your self esteem. You’ll also look better,something that ohers will notice and compliment you on – again making you feel better.

Study hard and work on your mind. Being successful at school and going on to have a successful career will give you confidence, because it’s an achievement that you have created for yourself. Intelligence is one of the most attractive traits in a person.

Start believing in yourself. Make a list of the things that make you unique and great. Every day, remind yourself of these things and affirm them everytime you feel low. I started doing this when I was dating an ex who had an obsession with drooling over women in porn magazines – I felt I could never live up to their perfection, but then I started believing in myself and life got a whole lot better and healthier,

I wish the same for you )

How do I build Self esteem?

Michelle — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 19:22:19 +0000

I’m a 19 year old guy. I am very lonely. People say I have too build confidence but I don’t know what to do. How do I build inner confidence?

Think about the good things that make you, you .

How can i build my self esteem?

Michelle — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 12:39:09 +0000

I take things way too seriously even if they are jokes and everyone hates me for it.
it would help if i had someone to talk to who can help me head on with this. Ive tried so many times to build my self esteem but theres always a flaw and i mess up really bad. Please help me. It has me really depressed.

well, take the stick out yr butt and walk straight for a change….

Have fun, its only yourself thats holding yourself back from haveing fun and finding jokes funny….

HAVE FUn and open up

How do you accept yourself and build self esteem?

Michelle — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 07:32:08 +0000

my self esteem is very low. In theory i know there are good things about me- but i feel a constant pressure to be superhuman and the best, and hate myself for always falling short of my expectations. How do i just learn to like who i am, and start showing that to people, instead of constantly worrying?

the only one putting pressure on you to be superhuman is yourself, so stop it. What I did was choose small reasonable goals that I could succeed at meeting on a daily basis. Over time the goals got bigger and success at them, built on achieving the smaller goals built my self esteem. I learned also that i had to be my own best friend, that no one was going to come to my rescue, so I starting treating myself the way I would a best friend, literally. If I felt bad, I offered myself consolation, when I did something well, I would praise myself, and when i had a special event I would treat myself….just as I would my best friend. It’s about small steps, not being super human all at one time, which none of us ever achieves. I managed to raise two children alone, go to nursing school and now am managing a clinic. My self esteem is fine, so I know it can be done. But it isn’t going to happen over night and you have to make a commitment to yourself, stop looking to others for an opinion, rely on your own good opinion and you will do fine.