What’s the best way to build self esteem in a 12 year old girl?
My daughter is 12 and starting 7th grade in the fall. She is very body image oriented and likes to wear baggy clothes to cover her body. She is not considered obese, but she is not a stick either. She is active and outside playing a lot every day. She just doesn’t have very good self esteem. And, yes we do tell her she’s beautiful and smart, etc.. etc.. etc…
Help her embrace those things she doesn’t like and let her know that everyone has those aspects of themselves that they wish they could change. Talk to her about the importance of health in her diet and exercise. Most importantly, hlp her realize that she is 12 and this is not the body she will have next year, much less for the rest of her life.
I have a 14 yearold daughter who is not a stick either. I like to point out the beautiful Hollywood people and express my sorrow for them. Too bad she can’t have anything more then a carrot to eat. How stupid she looks with her ribs sticking out – stuff like that, very casual judgements about those who we are suppose to idiolize goes a long way.
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Beat it into her. The only way children learn is through physical violence.
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Thats part of being a 12 yr old girl. I have found that putting my daughter in activities such as cheerleading REALLY helped her shyness and self esteem.
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help her to believe in her self that she is unique and very important and there is no one like her
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when I was 12 I was the same way… and as time went on I was happier in many aspects on my appearence. Maybe not 100% but still a little better. Also, my younger sister sometimes has the same problems, shes also 12. Girls around the age group seem to grow up quicker than they should as in means by wearing make up, getting boyfriends, and trying to act a lot more mature than they are. Her problems are normal, just tell her shes not alone on the matter and only worry about the little problems right now, that one day she will be even more beautiful and smart than she is now. Just make sure you look out for signs of anorexia or bulimia, chances of her getting it are slim, but if enough pressure is put on to her, its possible to happen.
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introduce her to the geeky zit faced kid down the street?
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Help her embrace those things she doesn’t like and let her know that everyone has those aspects of themselves that they wish they could change. Talk to her about the importance of health in her diet and exercise. Most importantly, hlp her realize that she is 12 and this is not the body she will have next year, much less for the rest of her life.
I have a 14 yearold daughter who is not a stick either. I like to point out the beautiful Hollywood people and express my sorrow for them. Too bad she can’t have anything more then a carrot to eat. How stupid she looks with her ribs sticking out – stuff like that, very casual judgements about those who we are suppose to idiolize goes a long way.
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