How do I build Self esteem?
I’m a 19 year old guy. I am very lonely. People say I have too build confidence but I don’t know what to do. How do I build inner confidence?
Think about the good things that make you, you 
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Avoid asking questions on YahooAnswers! for one… many people there find it amusing to put people down.
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just stop caring what ppl think of you and do what you wanna do
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Think about the good things that make you, you
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Just do it.
Oh, I stole Nike’s slogan so this might get deleted.
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If you want self esteem you do esteemable things. Do things that are right and make you feel good about yourself. Get involved with something you take interest in and see how much you can achieve. Only you can change how you feel about yourself!
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that’s something only you can do for yourself. you gotta realise the great person you are.
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You can research something called positive self-talk. It starts with telling yourself that you are a good person and believing that you have the qualities within you that other people will like. It’s a bit like meditation, by giving compliments to yourself. You might say "I look good and feel good about myself and others will see me as a positive person."
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Join a Club or a team of some sort that you can express yourself physically with other people. At the very least find a hobby that you really enjoy. It sounds corny and like something your guidance councilor would tell you in highschool but I’ve found it to be very true.
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I don’t think it’s a case of just sitting down and visualising yourself as confident, that might help but only a little.
I suggest making some friends – note good friends, preferably with whom you have a reasonable amount in common. The best type of friends will be an encouragement to you, with whom you can go out, have fun and talk together.
Don’t use Yahoo or the internet as a friend finder but I suggest that you go along to a local social club, church group, gym and make some friends.
Then try doing things that you are good at and develop those skills and abilities, that’s always a confidence builder and try some new things, we all have talents and abilities that we need to discover and grow in.
A bit of weight training might help to make you feel good about yourself and your body, you could work out at home or in a Gym.
Good luck. Dan
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Work on it dailey. Praise yourself for all the good things you do and say right and stretch yourself a little the next day with new challenges. This will build your confidence up to a point that you know you can handle things. Dont be hard on yourself when you dont get it right. Put it down to learning.
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First of all ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF… you are not different from others. We all have good and bad moments. Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. Its like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline. Self esteem brings about self improvement, true assessment, and determination. Try be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment.
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well some people are born very outgoing and some are not. I would reccomend these things: Find something your really good at and know that your really godd at something. I would recomend karate. It really builds self asteem but not so much that you go sround bragging. Also if someone insults you dont ever actually listen to them. Just hodl your head up high and smile alot.
Hope I helped
-Jordie
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just knowing that people ahead of you have done all things you wish to do in life and succeded or failed first but never gave up. if ppl from other times can do it you can deff do it. whatever it is you need the esteem for. at 19 it is time to reinvent you and be whomever you wish to be.for most pple it is an act (being confident) once you are into it thats it. know yourself first (limits and feats). what are you here for that makes you different. when you get rich i want half.
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I struggle with this, too. Stems from things that happened during childhood, no doubt, but it’s time to move forward…You now create your own life. You choose how to live.
There are several ways to increase your self esteem:
1. Read positive, self-help books for advice. I read Anthony Robbins, Stephen Covey and a lot of other esteem building authors. Know you can be who you want to be.
2. Acknowledge your strengths and accomplishments. Too many times, we say we can’t do anything or that we’re idiots, etc. but in reality, we’ve done some good things in life. We’ve accomplished more than we know. Nineteen years old is young, but did you finish high school? That’s an accomplishment, for example. Do you have positive relationships with family? Many people don’t.
3. Start being thankful for what you have. Keep a "thankful" journal and list all the things that you have in life so far: Health, a working mind, a safe place to live, etc. Notice everything good in your life. A pretty flower, clean air, rain. Everything.
4. Do you believe in God? If you do, you should have self esteem right away because you are a child of God. We are all his children in spirit. What a wonderful, powerful heritage that is. Pray to Him. For everything. Like the loving Heavenly Father He is, He will come to your aid. With God, all things are possible.
5. Work toward a goal. Do something. Even if you fail, try again. Again, again. Until you reach your goal. It can be a small goal, but reaching it will give you self-esteem. Know you have power over your own actions.
6. Do something good for someone. Secretly. Helping others is a sure way to build self esteem. You are important. You can make a difference in a human life.
7. Reach out. There are so many others on earth who are lonely, too. If you are too shy to connect in person, connect on the Internet. You’ll be surprise at how many people are just like you, yearning for friendship, even love. My cousin just married a person she met online. They are soulmates for sure!
We forget how much power we have in our own lives. Keep seeking answers. Act upon wise advice. You will grow.
Oh, another thing about confidence:
When you focus on others, you will forget your insecurities. Shy people actually focus too much on what others think about them. Think about others. Try to help them out of their shells and you’ll be surprised how your own insecurities melt away.
Don’t let others decide your worth. Who cares what others think? Why should you let them rule your life? Why give them that power over you?
You are a valuable human being. Take charge of your life!
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Figure out the things about you that are undeniably true: do you smile at the sight of dogs? Do you enjoy cleaning the bathroom? Do you laugh when in the company of certain people? Just ask yourself questions at every opportunity and figure out what makes you you.
Many great thinkers can provide help in this task, I enjoy reading about Jungs individuation process. When you start to see yourself as unique (in some uses of the world as obviously many people spend a lifetime trying to assert that they are "different from everyone else") then you will start to enjoy being around yourself and see what you have to offer others.
Its not an easy choice to make though, trying to understand yourself and be a better person. If you want it enough though, you will reach for it.
Good luck
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